Another Mother’s Day Without My Mom

My mom loved being a grandmother to little Parker - Photo: Melissa Hafting


This is my second Mother’s Day without my mother.

I miss you every day mom, especially today.

You were a wonderful mother and grandmother. 

There is not a day I do not think of you.

There is not a day I do not miss you.

There is not a day that goes by that I don’t love you.

I still cry all the time over losing you.

Thank you for everything you ever did for me and for loving me.

Next month I need to go through my first Father’s Day without my Dad.

It is so hard to survive without both of you but I will always be grateful I had you and was able to love you.

You and Dad were the greatest gifts I ever had in my entire life. 

This year we have had unprecedented numbers of Mountain Bluebirds, which has warmed my heart, when I see one I can feel you in every place I visit.

Time doesn’t heal your loss one bit but life grows around the grief. The sadness comes in intense waves. My heart hurts without you and will forever be broken.


I will never stop missing you.

What I would do to have you smiling at me again. 

My heart will never heal from the loss of you and Dad.

How do I say goodbye to the people who gave me my name and have been with me my whole life?

I will never get over it. 

I still miss you like the birds would miss the sky.

Thank you for seeing the best in me mom.

Happy Mother’s Day to you in Heaven.

I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU.

I LOVE YOU FOREVER AND ALWAYS.

I dedicate my life to you. 

Your daughter,

Melissa

A couple of poems for my mom:

Be like I, hold your head up high
Till you find a bluebird of happiness
You will find greater peace of mind
Knowing there’s a bluebird of happiness
And when he sings to you
Though you’re deep in blue
You will see a ray of light creep through
And so remember this, life is no abyss
Somewhere there’s a bluebird of happiness

The poet with his pen, the peasant with his plow
It makes no difference who you are
It’s all the same somehow
The king upon his throne, the jester at his feet
The artist, the actress, the man on the street
It’s a life of smiles, and a life of tears
It’s a life of hopes, and a life of fears
A blinding torrent of rain, and a brilliant burst of sun
A biting, tearing pain, and bubbling, sparkling fun
And no matter what you have
Don’t envy those you meet
It’s all the same, it’s in the game
The bitter and the sweet
And if things don’t look so cheerful
Just show a little fight
For every bit of darkness
There’s a little bit of light
For every bit of hatred
There’s a little bit of love
For every cloudy morning, there’s a midnight moon above

A Bluebird of Happiness for my mom - Photo: Melissa Hafting

If you have lost a mother and find Mother’s Day hard check out this article which gives helpful strategies on how to get through the day HERE

Comments

  1. LonelytravellerMay 15, 2023 at 6:57 AM

    This a beautiful post about mom and the heartache since she and dad passed. Such a huge hole and pain is so hard to deal with.

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  2. PacificnorthwestkateMay 15, 2023 at 8:51 PM

    What a beautiful post Melissa! You were lucky to know such love! Not everyone is lucky to have such wonderful parents as you did! And to feel this way, not just on Mother’s Day - but every day! Take care my lovely friend - treat your heart gently - your mom and dad are with you always. Love Kate

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    1. Melissa HaftingMay 27, 2023 at 10:09 PM

      thank you Kate i was blessed and my heart is broken without them I will never be the same again... thank you for your kindness

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  3. AnonymousJune 1, 2023 at 11:21 PM

    I am so sorry Mel you had a wonderful mom I'm sorry you lost her :(

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